You have to think of nvc as a systemic solution and not a personal one in order to understand what it is trying to do.
Take a population of 100 people. 10 of them are emotional. 40 of them are emotional amplifiers. 10 are combative. And 40 are combative amplifiers.
In this system, it tends to chaos when communication is too combative because of the population set (regardless of any ideals or moral judgments of what you think).
Nvc is a set of rules that, if a subset of the 100 population follows it, lowers the chance of communication blowing up into chaos. That's about it.
It's the best communication style for nullifying others bad communication when bad communication is the root cause of tension or problems.
Take a population of 100 people. 10 of them are emotional. 40 of them are emotional amplifiers. 10 are combative. And 40 are combative amplifiers.
In this system, it tends to chaos when communication is too combative because of the population set (regardless of any ideals or moral judgments of what you think).
Nvc is a set of rules that, if a subset of the 100 population follows it, lowers the chance of communication blowing up into chaos. That's about it.
It's the best communication style for nullifying others bad communication when bad communication is the root cause of tension or problems.