> by questioning the beliefs that cause you to feel what you're feeling
I think one oversight is that you presuppose this.
My beliefs in this case counter my feelings. I have nothing but warm regards, in belief, for dudes that want to kiss dudes. And I've gone to gay events, pride, gay nightclubs, made gay friends, worked with gay peopke, done all the things to normalize it in my mind and the negative feeling from watching homoerotic activity doesn't hamper this or stop me from enjoying my time with these people.
In this case it's not belief driving feelings, it is a negative feeling I get counter to my beleif that I just have to overlook. I don't see this as a 'problem' as you put it. For all I know it is some genetic drive my ancestors had that lead to my genesis. I have no reason to believe it is maladaptive.
Half the ancestor comments have been flagged out of existence, so I have no way of reminding myself of what was said, but my memory was that you said something which pretty much no gay person needs to be hearing. There's not some sort of accounting where you go to a gay event and then you get to make X number of shitty comments about gay people online. This is basically the "I have a black friend so I can't be rascist" thing.
Your feelings may be acceptable, but it's not necessarily acceptable to share every acceptable feeling you have with everyone. There are plenty of people I meet on a day to day basis that I'm not attracted to, of many genders and sexualities, and that's fine. But I've never once felt it necessary to tell one of those people that I'm not attracted to them, and doing so would be pretty rude and inconsiderate. If my memory of the flagged comments is correct, that's basically what you did. Sure, your feelings are fine, you don't really control those. But did you have to share them on the internet where they might hurt people who read them?
I don't want to blow this out of proportion. In the grand scheme of things, this isn't that bad and I don't think you need to be like ostracized from society or barred from holding positions of power or something. People make mistakes and this isn't a big one. But I do think it is a mistake.
I'm not saying there's not any appropriate context for sharing these feelings.
I'm saying that you should consider what effect sharing your feelings will have before you do it, and I think if you considered anyone other than yourself here, you wouldn't share these feelings here.
I think one oversight is that you presuppose this.
My beliefs in this case counter my feelings. I have nothing but warm regards, in belief, for dudes that want to kiss dudes. And I've gone to gay events, pride, gay nightclubs, made gay friends, worked with gay peopke, done all the things to normalize it in my mind and the negative feeling from watching homoerotic activity doesn't hamper this or stop me from enjoying my time with these people.
In this case it's not belief driving feelings, it is a negative feeling I get counter to my beleif that I just have to overlook. I don't see this as a 'problem' as you put it. For all I know it is some genetic drive my ancestors had that lead to my genesis. I have no reason to believe it is maladaptive.